Hearing is innate to many of us. Listening is a learned skill.  

Because it is a skill - like tennis or golf - we can practice and improve our ability. And now is an important time to listen more than we speak.

This is one of those times when listening may be more important than talking. 

We learn a lot from listening and many times, our friends, colleagues, and family members just need to “talk it out.” Solving problems (a.k.a. talking) is not always the best strategy.

The next time you sense someone needs to “talk it out,” integrate any one of these 5 tips.

#1: Summon Presence

When you sense that another person nee...

“If ever there is a tomorrow when we’re not together…

There is something you must always remember.

You are braver than you believe,

Stronger than you seem,

And smarter than you think.

But the most important thing is, even if we’re apart,

I’ll always be with you.”

~A.A. Milne, Winnie the Pooh~

Have you ever been on an off-road adventure?

You might have gone to a place that specializes in these unpaved experiences. There may have been a guide, a padded vehicle, a helmet, etc. If you’re an adventure seeker, you might have heard laughs and screams of delight as the driver intentionally steered off the road where things got bumpy on r...

In this challenging time, this timeless story brings hope and reminds us of what binds us together. I hope you enjoy it today. Sending light and thoughts of health and healing to you and all you love, Kathy


People come from all over the world in the hopes of finding wellness at the Mayo Clinic. Although I have never been a patient there, I have found healing there.

I hope you do too as I tell you about my experience.

The Piano Man

It was the man at the grand piano that taught me the most.

I wasn’t trying to find him. And he wasn’t trying to teach me anything. But there he was playing the happiest music I could imagine...

Dog energy is a lot like people energy (just ask Ceasar Milan). When a group of dogs get together it can be a passionate and frenetic adventure.

I walked in the SPCA K93K Walk to benefit homeless pets this weekend. ​The energy was electric with dogs dressed in costumes, excited owners and lots of treats!

There was the occasional scuffle (barking and a little biting) but there a point in the day that amazed me. It was when all the people and dogs began to walk together.

Once we began to walk together, everyone was on the same course with the same purpose in mind.

This applies to cooperative endeavors in every setting (whether...

Nothing comes from nothing

Nothing ever could

So somewhere in my youth or childhood

I must’ve done something good.

~Oscar Hammerstein II~

You’ve done something good.

If you tracked all the contributions and all the ways that you’ve made a difference, you would be overwhelmed.

If all the people you have helped in some way could come forward and tell you today what a difference you made, you would be stunned.

We go about our lives making people smile, shaping people’s lives, doing what we do and we rarely take inventory of the goodness we bring.

The other night the song "Something Good" from The Sound of Music popped into my mind....

A few years ago, I started setting a theme for each year. I'm not exactly sure how I backed into this practice, but it has become a signficant - and fun - exercise to integrate into my personal visioning and planning.

As you prepare for a new year and, inevitably, think about what the year holds for you, I'd like to suggest that you adopt a theme that reflects what you want your year to represent.

Let me explain....

A theme is a recurring idea you'd like to invite. It might be thought of as a central idea, subject or issue. As you imagine a theme for yourself, allow it to become a reference or decision point for the year....

To pass through a mountain, we have to go through a tunnel.

Recently, I was driving to and from Nashville, Tennessee and I had the joy of driving through the Cherokee National Forest.

It was gorgeous and there were tunnels - lots of them!

As I approached each tunnel, I got nervous for some reason. 

I had to come to terms with the fact that I don't like tunnels. I know they present an efficient route through a mountain but, for me, they are dark and scary - unlike the picture I've included above (it's how I like to envision tunnels now).

I realized that when we're in a tunnel, we don't exactly know how...

You are never alone.

There are times when we feel separated from what we perceive to be “the majority.” We might be going through something or experiencing something that makes us feel different.

When this happens, remember that you are never alone. There is a pack for you.

There are others who are experiencing warrior spirit and encountering some unexpected life events – i.e., events that catapult us forward into growth.

Whatever you are experiencing that makes you feel alone is a moment-in-time poised to launch you to a new place – a better place – a wiser place.

One of Carolyn Myss’ books (Sacred Contracts) posed a questio...

Enjoy your summer vacation a little more. Bring these life preservers with you.

Life Preserver #1: Learn to say "I'm sorry." 

Learning to say these two words with sincerity can save a relationship. It's one of the hardest things to say and can also be the easiest. When a conversation takes a bad turn, insert this Dale Carnegie phrase (and mean it): "I may be wrong. I often am."

Life Preserver #2: Don't take the bait or dangle it. 

Bait is attached to a hook and hooks can be dangerous. If you've had a bad day, it's never a good day for an important conversation. Run it off. Breathe it out. Shake it off - literally. Delaying a...

It's been an awe-inspiring month. 

In my work I strive to understand the hearts and minds of my clients and their constituents. I have been humbled to support children with disabilities, struggling communities, the homeless, arts organizations, educators, animals and so many more. 

This summer I am supporting the USO of North Carolina as well as the North Carolina Military Affairs Commission. I have worked with the USO of NC for more than 10 years and know that - right now - this array of clients is here to teach me something new. 

I am saying "yes" to every experience they offer. My work is bringing me to interview militar...

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