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10 Steps to Turn an Enemy into a Friend

You have the power to shift any relationship beginning today.

Create a new energy with someone who needs to smile.

Is there someone you've been avoiding?

Try this clean slate approach to turn things around.

Step 1: Think of someone who, in the past, has seemed unfriendly. (You may find that you have avoided this person because it feels unpleasant and/or uncomfortable. Sometimes things build up over time but it's never too late to reset.)

Step 2: Keep an open mind and decide to approach the other person with a “fresh start” mentality.

Step 3: Instead of avoiding the person, seek them out.

Step 4: Anticipate success.

Step 5: Say hello and greet them with a genuine smile.

Step 6: Ask them a question (anything) and then take the time to listen to what they have to say.

Step 7: Smile again.

Step 8: Notice a few things you like about that person (start small and work you way up to bigger things).

Step 9: Repeat at every opportunity.

Step 10: Review your results in one week.

You are a catalyst for positive change. Change a relationship with this "clean slate" approach.

© Kathy Sturgis, Ph.D. Kathy is founder of Refreshment Zone and is an organizational and personal development specialist with a doctorate in communication. Contact for more information on motivational programs.

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