The Art of Sitting on Your Hands
One of the most dynamic entrepreneurs and leaders I have ever known knew a secret – listen more than you speak.
I mean at meetings – all meetings.
Powerful outcomes require buy-in. Powerful leaders listen. They create opportunities for strategic conversation.
This presents an ongoing challenge for any leader – particularly smart ones. The majority of leaders that I work with were hired for their expertise and they know most of the answers – but they are smart enough to know that they can’t bring about necessary changes without the buy-in of the individuals that they work with – this requires getting out of the way – divorcing ourselves of preconceived notions about how to get from A to B – and gathering input.
The smart leader knows that having all of the answers won’t bring the heart and soul to your organization.
Know when to speak.
Know when to listen.
Know when to influence.
Know how to create opportunities for others to have influence.
If you are spending more time listening than speaking ~ if you are asking the right questions and allowing the collective genius in your organization to emerge ~ then you are the wisest of leaders. Continue on that path!
If you find that you are doing a lot of talking, try sitting on your hands for a while.
© Kathy Sturgis, Ph.D. Kathy is founder of Refreshment Zone and is an organizational and personal development specialist with a doctorate in communication. Contact firstname.lastname@example.org for more information on motivational programs.